I was thinking about tarajis interview about African Americans and mental health . She described how we go to our friends and family members for that “cry for help” ..and it is so true how we have too many stakes involved because they automatically want you to be “fixed “. Their not professional so they’ll say anything .. they’ll use advice like; “you’ll get over it” , “just remember someone is going through something worst than you“ , & that’s a pet peeve of mine . We have to be more aware of what we say and how we say it regardless if you think someone’s mindset is weak” . I think we build monuments of pain on ourselves and others , rather than restoring a breakthrough in our communities . psychologists are there for a reason and mental health is definitely a thing .. why are we scared to utilize them ?? The limitation of African American psychologists is also a good point of questioning .. Very powerful message . #justathought 💫
be careful for what you ask for when you pray, never forget gods will..
All drama is conflict. Without conflict, there is no action. Without action, there is no character. Without character, there is no story. And without a story .. well..
who wrote this? can you guess? what’s your thoughts?
Learning to say no is so hard for us, why?
This year will be the year that I release that fear of saying no, I choose me. No, I can’t help you … I need time for ME. This is a time to get a clear understanding of what I want to focus on and what I want out of life. I’ve realized you can’t help everyone , especially if its effecting your groove.
Being a good person (a better version of your self) & for the most part taking control of what you put out there sometimes is very hard . I’ve failed sometimes but There are days
1. I wanna cuss somebody out so bad
2. I want to expose someone so bad
3. I want to beat somebody ass so bad
Especially when they think your a joke and can say & do anything , come in and out of your life and your suppose to take it and sit back ? Then when you lash out you crazy lmao I really don’t understand .
I’m no angel but I know one thing I am human .. I let niggas live they life & when you constantly trying to interrupt mine that’s a problem .. #rantmonday
just some of my favs .. of course not a complete list of my playlist
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This may just look like a good view to you, maybe it’s just a picture of the sky, it may not mean anything to you, but this picture puts me in such a emotional place. Before I say these couple sentences, disclaimer: I’m human of course I’ve had worries.. Although, I’ve never been the girl to chase after guys, say that I’ll never have a family of my own, say that no one will ever accept me completely for myself, say I’ll never land this job, or say I’ll never get more money than only being left with $100 in my bank account. Maybe it’s because I’m the girl who worries but, runs with the flow, was raised to “claim it first”.. is this a good or bad thing? Well it’s just me (Ivyonna). I’m the girl who always wanted her own space anyway .. honestly not even caring if it’s just me and my dog in a high rise apartment by ourselves chasing my dreams and traveling till my last breath, if it’s meant that’s what’ll be. If I do cross a great guy and a family along the way I would love that too. Your probably wondering who doesn’t want the fairytale of that “American dream”? .. well, yes I have thought about it and yes, maybe it bothered me once or twice, but honestly I’ve never tried to predict what god has in store for me. I’ve stumbled and I’ve questioned why something has happened, but this is my path. Here in this view is where I confirmed that me letting go and letting god is a continuation of what needs to happen. That pressure of being in your twenties and seeing all the people around you move in all type of directions , it can become stressful especially with all the things we are able to be exposed to. Why is this? Why do we pressure ourselves so young? I had to remember that your path is your path, because God always places us in a space where we’re meant to be. However you believe, I personally believe we all are here for a reason. I met that person for a reason, I had learned a lesson for my reason, I fell for that lie for a reason, I went to this school then another for a REASON.
ok , let me not preach .. but this is real.. so let me share a little moment…
A couple months ago I visited my cousin and she had a friend she had visited , which she couldn’t get in touch with him in so long, but when I was there they caught up. There we were on the top floor of a sky riser (my dream) with a CEO of a company, his company. “His” referring to a Black Man, a Black strong man. Which I could say so much just by the way he talked about his struggles and also his passion for where he is now and what he inspires to be. When I sat with this man, this was my confirmation, and this was my inspiration. I remember telling my mom and thanking her for letting me hang out with her and my older cousin , I know she was probably like what the hell is wrong with her lol .. I was literally almost in tears. So, when I look at this picture, I think about the conversations that went on in this moment, my thoughts, my past , my prayers. You ever met someone who seems like they’ve it all ? Well , I could look at this guy and say ” wow look at what you have, it’s all I ever wanted”, been a typical hater and place a individual comment on myself , rather than celebrating his success. He could’ve even flaunted , (which isn’t always bad), but this guy was humble. Just good vibes overall, you know the feeling of just meeting a genuine person? He had not even been satisfied with what he already had because the sky was the limit with this guy. That inspired me so much, and I knew we had the same thoughts when meeting each other after I shared my aspirations with me as he did with me and my family. That feeling of being happy for those who we don’t even have to know, and that’s not common especially in the black community. I had not been happy for this guy because of his amount of money or his sweet space, but how he took a risk and went for what HE wanted in life.. and he was just as excited to find out that I was in his place talking about my dreams.
Again, this picture may not mean much to you, but it is everything for me. Those who need a push to be inspired by my story with this guy and how others can influence you to stay on the right path, this is for you also. I think in a place where I was raised , there is a lot of bad energy, competition, and hate. So, when you go somewhere and meet individuals who have the same heart as you , you become thankful. It’s exciting when someone is happy for you , disregarding anything they are experiencing , they still want to see you win.
I will never forget that man.. it WOKE ME ALL THE WAY UP AND I LOVED THAT HE SPREAD THAT #magicpotion 😉
-Not feeding into the negativity anymore? Anyone trying to ruin your image because of their mistakes ? Don’t worry . (Ctrl. Alt. Delete).. I think as humans we have trouble with being distracted and letting others side tract us from what we want for ourselves. I hope a lot of my viewers get to a point to be selfish not with finding peace , because life is unpredictable right? Rather, I hope you find peace within your self to let go of bad habits and vibes that effect you in a way that you have loss your self entirely. We grow and tumble everyday, but we don’t have to drag along those who want to stay stagnant with us or have to try to “save them”. Sounds easy, but it is a process 🌱, don’t let that process defeat you.
Out with the old , In with the new..
I ‘ve been cleaning up! How about you?